The 1st Step You Need To Take In Learning How To Set Healthy Boundaries

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It's really important for us to have BOUNDARIES.  
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I know that we are hearing that word a lot more now.  Even with the topic and idea of boundaries becoming more popular, sometimes we still aren’t sure where to start when it comes to setting healthy boundaries.

The very first step we need to take when learning how to set healthy boundaries is to learn where our boundaries need to live.  It may sound simple but it can be complex. It's important to take some time out to learn where our boundaries are so that we are able to effectively communicate them to other people.  

What I encourage you to do is take a moment to reflect on all the things that feel good and all the things that don’t feel good.  As you notice things that do not feel good, that is an indication of where a boundary may need to be set. For example, if you notice that you attend events late in the evening and starting to realize that you don’t enjoy being out that late, maybe that means there needs to be a boundary set around when or what time of day you will attend those types events.  
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As you start to learn more of what does and doesn't feel good for you, you then get to decide whether you are going to set a boundary or not!

Boundary Setting Activity

1. Take one full week to reflect on events, moments, situations, relationships, interactions, etc. do and do not feel good.
2. Keep a record of the moments during that week that do not feel good, or that feel uncomfortable, etc.
3. After the week ends, look over the list you have created and decide what may need a new boundary set around it.  

I hope this helps you as you begin to set new healthy boundaries in your life! 

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